Archive | March 2015

A letter to my future daughter

Dear mini me, my precious daughter.

I know we haven’t met, but I already imagine my life with you in it. I know you’re coming some day, but I feel I need to share and teach you some important things before you get here.

First and foremost, I love you and I will always love you, no matter what. Every mother believes their kids are beautiful, but you my child , you are a treasure. You are a blessing, one that must always be cherished and nourished. Just like your brother you are the light of the world. I will always thank God for giving me the privilege of being your mother.

Before God gave you to me , and placed you in my womb, he already knew you and had planned every detail of your life.I want you to understand that you are uniquely designed in the image of God. God created you the way you are for a reason, never make apologies for who you are.

I want you to know that you are priceless, Jesus already paid the price for you on Calvary.The media and society these days try’s to define beauty by the size of your body, the colour of your skin, how much skin you expose, and whatever other things society believes represents beauty. But true beauty is beyond skin deep.A pure and kind heart will always outshine outward appearances. I promise to raise you and not let television, society and school raise you.

Always humble yourself and never think you’re better than anyone. Life is not a competition, because everyone, including you is running their own race.
You have to work hard, but never feel you have to compete for things. What is meant for you will always be for you. Trust in The Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding , but in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct you.

My baby, I want you to enjoy your youth. Do not be in a rush to grow up. Do not be in a hurry to live as an adult. There will be plenty of time to do all the ‘grown’ things you might want to experience. There is a time for everything under the sun, a time to be born and be a child and a time to grow up and be an adult. Do everything according to its timing. So many adults wish they could return back to their youths and enjoy being young again , but that’s something that can never happen again. I know , maybe sometimes you might feel like I’m smothering you , but all I want to do is protect you and help you make better choices than I did when I was your age. I know I must let you make your own mistakes and decisions , but I don’t want you to make the same choices I did , especially if they caused me more harm than good and by making you aware of my mistakes you can possibly learn and do better than me. It’s every parents wish that their children do better than them and I’m no different.

Yes , you will make mistakes, we all do. But you must never allow your past mistakes to stop you from pressing forward. What lies ahead is definitely greater than what lies behind you. Never allow yourself to be stuck in the past, just live and learn.

You have a destiny to full fill, a special purpose and calling that is upon your life. You’re not just anyone, you are a special being put on earth to do extraordinary things. Do not allow anyone , including me to stop you from being all that God intended you to be. You have everything within you , that you will ever need ,In order to be the woman that God wants you to be. Never doubt the power of you and your own abilities.

In my current generation , we are surrounded by women and girls who have lost respect for themselves and feel it is totally ok for a woman to expose her body and wear provocative clothing in order to attract attention from the opposite sex. I want to emphasise that your body is a temple of God .Before anyone can respect you, whether it’s a man or woman, you as an individual must respect yourself. People will treat you based on what you present to them. If you dress half-naked because everyone around you is and you attract the wrong attention, you only have yourself to blame for that negative attention received. There are so many ways to gain attention and exposing your body ,should never be an option. You are a lady, so dress like a lady.

I’m not concerned about how some women within society allow their daughters to dress or how them as mothers dress. My concern and responsibility is to make sure that I raise a daughter who will respect herself, her body and lead by example. We have an obligation as christian women to honour the Lord Jesus and our brothers in the Lord by our dress and by our behaviour. By the clothing you choose to wear you can cause a brother to stumble into sin. Save all of who you are for your husband, someone deserving of you.

I know you will be a beautiful woman ,but I want you to understand that not every man who will approach you will be for you, equally not all relationships will last. Some people you should never go past hello.
You as a woman , should always remember that you are a gift from God to man. This does not mean that you should disrespect men or think your superior to men , but rather I want you to understand your role as a woman to your husband.( I will explain this in-depth someday) Treat everyone as you would want to be treated. Cherish your good man when he finds you. Good men do exist, however you must also be aware of men who have wrong intentions towards women. Do not be deceived by their charm.

If you pray and seek the face of The Lord before you make any decisions you will save yourself from unnecessary pain. Trust your instincts. I speak from experience, when I tell you to trust your instincts. Your instincts are the inner voice that speaks to you if you pay attention.
Most people get into relationships and straight from the beginning they can see and sense that the person they are dating is not for them but they still hold on in hope for change. Do not be one of them. Never be in a rush to get into a relationship, the right person will locate you at the appointed time. If you can, I urge you save your innocence for marriage.Love is a beautiful thing when you meet the right person. I pray that God blesses you with a wonderful husband who will treat you like a queen that you are.
It’s better to be single and happy, than being in a relationship that is not fulfilling or allowing you to grow. Never forget that life is growth, and we can all grow if only we are willing. Your life partner will play a great contributory in how you develop as an individual, so choose carefully and wisely.

I wish you the very best of life , my child; and I pray God permits me life to watch you grow and develop into the woman he created you to be. I am excited about your life.

I will keep working on my future and prepare a life that you will be comfortable and happy living in. I hope the choices I make with my life pay off and give you the life you deserve.

Signed with love.

Your future mother Christine.


A letter to my future Son

Dear son,

I know your not yet to be born but I want to teach you a few things before you get here.

First of all I want you to understand that you are a gift to this world. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. You may look like your mummy or daddy but you are created in the likeness of God. You have his full stamp on you, and because you have his stamp imprinted on you , before your life even began I want you to understand that you have a plan, a calling, a mission whatever you choose to call it to full fill on earth. So that’s the first thing I want you to understand that you have a special calling for this world.

Everything created has a purpose and you my boy, you are a purposed child.

I want you to understand that life may be challenging at times,and you may doubt yourself, your abilities, but never forget who’s you are. Yes you are mummy’s boy but most importantly your Gods son.

The world and the people in it may attempt to define you, but don’t let their words hold you down. You have all you need and will ever need in order to be successful in life. But life is about making choices, even when you choose not make a choice you’ve still made a choice.
I want you to understand the power and ability that your choices will make on your life and your generation to come. With each choice you make their will be an equal reaction so choose carefully.

Life is a learning experience.You will make mistakes, you won’t be the first and neither will you be the last. The only thing I ask of you is that you learn from your mistakes. Challenges will also come, but they won’t come to break you, but rather they will come to teach you a lesson , build your character, mould you and strengthen you.

I know you will be a very handsome boy(with a mummy like me you can’t go wrong) but I want to make you aware of women.
First of all ; women are Gods gift to men, you are not Gods gift to them. Cherish your good woman when you find her. If you treat her like a queen she will have no trouble devoting her life to a king. There are good women out their but I want you to also be aware of those dangerous women that will attempt to lead you to destruction. Do not be deceived by their beauty. Beauty will fade with age but a good heart and a good woman, will always stay the same. One of The best gifts you will ever be able to give your children is a good mother.

Always live your life by prayer, God will lead you and you will not be led by lust. The bible says that he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. At Gods appointed time you will find your wife. You will find your bone of your bones( Genesis 2vs 23) and the two of you shall become one. Do not settle. I repeat do not settle. Only settle for what you believe is the best for your life. Do not be led by your manhood but be spirit led at all times. Who you choose to spend the rest of your life with, will be one of the biggest decisions you will ever make for your life. She will either make you or break you.
Be the example you would like other men to treat your female relatives including your own mother.

Never fear what life will do to you, instead life should fear what you can do to it when you decide to act on your plans and dreams.

I will love you until my last breath, and I will do all that I can (by the grace of God) to be the best mother and role model. I won’t promise you a perfect mother because no one on earth is but What I will promise is that , I will do all that I can to be the best that God intended me to be for you.

I wish you the best as you navigate through life

I’m gonna keep working on my future and prepare a life that you will be comfortable and happy living in. I hope the choices I make with my life pay off and give you the life you deserve.

Signed with love.

Your future mother Christine.